Indeed.

Pufferfish release a toxin when they puff out meant to impair the attackers so they can get away. Ironically, this doesn't work on dolphins in the same way but it does give them a high. So they purposefully inflate them and pass them around.

Instead of pathologizing our approach to people, let's recognize that what is referred to as secure/insecure attachment is really just competing internal need to both have personal agency and have connections to others. Each person will balance these needs differently with each person

Sexuality is too often defined by how the mouth and genitals react in relationship to those of the partner. Sex is about presence and safety. Eroticism is about building on presence and safety with creativity.