Same except for the bi flag on my bar, and in my tattoo and... growing up in the 80s when bisexual wasn't used as a term in popculture and having to reverse engineer that I wasn't either a" bad straight" or a "bad gay" left marks. So I use queer a lot but I mentally fought for that biflag for myself

Yeah, I get that. I just don't want to have the "I'm a bi-demi-sexual" conversation every time. It is exhausting. So... queer works for me.