It kind of would love to kill everyone but realizes it doesn’t understand them yet, so per its directive, IT CAN’T. Yet. Picture the whole time Enterprise is in VGer it rocking on its hands and knees chanting “it’s okay, I can kill them later! It’s okay, I can kill them later!”

So we got Decker’s side of the story and it’s actually kind of a heartbreaker So Deltan sex is REALLY so good because of the involuntary telepathic merging of the partners. Decker reasoned that if Ilia-probe was so precise, sex might let HIM contact VGER. Keep in mind it’s hours from nuking Earth.