Are you even a faculty woman in STEM if you aren’t going to 3-5 dinners per year where you’re the only woman present? (To be clear, I'm happy to go to dinner, I like these colleagues, and we will all nerd out about GPCRs. But still...)

Now I'm anxious...should I be going to ≥3-5 work dinners per year?

That used to be the case for me. At UM, it's been rare that I'm the only woman, and I've attended some dinners without men, which really speaks to the # excellent colleagues who happen to be women. Lack of commutes may also be a factor here...