I honestly don't know what goes wrong in a person that they could think that keeping kids around a violent relationship just because they are biologically related to both people in the relationship is somehow healthy for those kids. That is trauma that can stay with someone for a lifetime.

It's also weird because he could make this position a modicum more palatable by talking about support structures to reduce the source of the issues, but no!!! He explicitly thinks that doing that is garbage!

I've been a child raised to have to get since the 1990s. And I can definitively say raising a child in a violent household has never been good for the child.

Frankly, speaking as someone whose parents divorced for incompatibility that *wasn't* violent or abusive, it was much better for me emotionally in a stable single parent household than when they were both around and in conflict

As someone who grew up in a house with an abusive marriage: it's bad! Divorces can be traumatic but it's still better than living with ongoing abuse!

Right? Because we don't have tons of evidence of the negative consequences of growing up surrounded by IPV, especially when there's no way out.