We're going through the application process for the first time with our oldest, and he applied/ was accepted to the U where I work. I've tried to be as hands off as possible because I want him to be able to choose without him feeling pressure to come to Minnesota.

Our one main rule was you can’t go to the university across the street (even though it’s free!). So many good schools on the tuition exchange list, which i stayed at this university and took sub-median pay to keep as a benefit for years…