In my experience, there is a difference between met at a bar and "met at a bar doing an activity." If you met someone doing karaoke you can expect to do more karaoke and maybe expand to music; if you met at a drag show then you might expand to other costume stuff. Stick to activity nights.

Also, going to the same weekly activity will help - so karaoke but for the next 6 weeks, speak to the same ppl, try to remember details week to week, listen more than you talk about you, listen appreciatively. Many of the folks most worth being friends with won't want to become besties instantly.

Ye, very true~ Hard to flesh out thoughts with character limits+high. The point I was more trying to make is that if you just go out and try things to meet people, be aware of the fact that you're maybe signing up for more of it and what your social/physical spoon capacity is like <3