Reminder:

So someone should get emotional to win arguments? So being able to be calm is a bad thing?

And, possibly just as important, it is very easy for your argument to feel like a personal attack. When you argue for fun* (like, I do), set limits. And, jfc, don't name call.

I feel like I need to learn this off by heart. I feel this so often but have never been able to put it into words as eloquently as this.