I don't know where I read it but "abusers spend as much time grooming their character witnesses as they spend grooming their victims" has really stuck with me

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Can't hit a like button on that, but I am also now troubled.

I was just about to come here to say that, I’m delighted it’s reached the point of having a life if it’s own. (It is of course entirely possible I didn’t start it). I generally go with -abusers groom their character witnesses as carefully as their victims, you can be upgraded to victim at any time.

...the conservative movement in America.