One of the ways this skewing happens is that many people come away with the feeling that feminism is one of the biggest vectors of transphobia and therefore transphobia is usually about "protecting women."

Of course TERFism isn't feminism at all. It's instrumental in reinforcing patriarchal notions

This just isn't true! Narratives like this make the news a lot, and they do play a role in hate activism. But the most commonplace forms of trans hate have much more in common with misogyny, and feminism is an important part of fighting that.

It sounds a lot like what happens with racism in the South. Southern racism is so noisy and obvious and such a loud presence in our history and culture that it excuses everyone else from looking at their own biases—“I’m not like that, therefore I am not racist.” “I’m not a TERF, therefore…”

yea,,, or "hating men" 💀

Protecting women is a misogynistic framing anyway not allowing women to leave the house without a male escorts is "protecting women" dismantling social structures that make women unsafe by say punishing sexual harrasment is a feminist framing.