So no. I do not agree with this for several reasons ๐ฌ Sorry bestie but when it comes to safe sex this is my limit. I will not budge when aftercare is part of the scene, hormonally, emotionally, and biologically. If not for you, then your non asexual partner. Because they also matter after โ
If someone just got done choking, objectifying, and degrading you and then said โoh aftercare makes me uncomfortableโ and left, you would literally be psychologically damaged. Like โI need a therapist bc essentially I was SAโdโ and didnโt consent to this
Aftercare doesnโt have to be physical or emotional either! Like you can literally just be in each otherโs presence doing your own things until the glow wears off.
because sex in general isnโt going to be healthy for a relationship if you get uncomfortable by a required part of the act You know how musicals end and people take a bow? Aftercare is CLOSURE. Itโs mandatory. Itโs like how you have a tripsitter for drugs.
Are your partners also ace and experience the same thing? Because if they arenโt, you should be providing THEM aftercare. Itโs a two way street. Itโs part of the act of sex regardless. If it makes you overwhelmed or uncomfortable, you need to have a serious talk with them.
Idk tbh, I donโt care enough to even check them out to block them, itโs like more effort than theyโre worth
I have a feeling if I looked at my followers list at least 50% of it would be porn bots
Possibly the worst thing I ever did for my mental health was comparing myself to like the beautiful trans dolls that model or are huge porn actresses It made me feel so gross and masculine by comparison. You only feel good once you stop comparing your beauty to others ๐
Yeah, I have no doubt sheโs suffering, but also you have no obligation to subject yourself to doomerism and be pulled down back into a crab bucket, especially when itโs frequent behavior. Itโs emotionally draining and eventually you just give up. And thatโs okay. Thereโs only so much you can do.
The racism youโve mentioned though adds another layer that Iโm sorry you went through Idk what it was, but it doesnโt matter what it was, I just hope youโre okay now ๐