And like.... it CAN be like that. If you've established trust and control, you can make your master/slave relationship into whatever you want. You can role-play the alpha male and punishment seeker. But those aren't at the core of what this is all about.

At least for me, the Dom/Sub, Master/Slave kink culture is about: - The earning of trust - The allocation of control - The fulfillment and gratification of all parties involved. In that order. Your dom/sub relationship doesn't even have to be sexual in nature.