Feels real bad to be left with nothing but "haha sure does suck that our community acts this way huh" but idk what else I can do at this point. I have no ability to move anyone on these issues.

Exactly where I'm at. So I stick to locals/state stuff and focus on encouraging players to do more community participation, having fun, making memories, and challenging themselves. Doesn't get me free joysticks but it's honest and needed. :3