"And I want you to know that you have nothing to be ashamed of. We are the only ones who know what it was like to grow up with this hair and these features and these families. Remember, no one can tell you who you are. You get to decide."

(My personal takeaway, as someone who went through this 10 years ago and just shocked by how even more competitive college admission has gotten even since then, is that people should have a fundamental reflection on what the college admissions look like nowadays...)