i don't want to name any tgirls in particular, but if you are a recently-out trans woman and you're still finding your place in the world, i need you to understand that trying to be One Of The Good Ones to cis people who hate you will not end well for you. you are worth more than that. love yourself

Begging people to learn who Roy Cohn and Ernst Röhm were and what their being "acceptable" to the ruling class brought them.

i know you won't believe me, but i get it. i was in your shoes once too, as were all of us. being trans is scary enough when you're still figuring it out, but i promise you that trying to distance yourself from the "bad" trans women so that cis people like you won't work. that path is pure pain.

very true This hurts especially when somebody thats older than me and bases their entire personality of beeing picked and being one of the good ones tells me how invalid I am. like sry that you don't appreciate the people that actually care about you and that I figured shit out quicker then you ig

Tbh I think a lot of it is genuine internalized transmisogyny. When you're early transition and really dysphoric and can't present the way you want it's easy to think things like "maybe I am basically like a cis man". Without transfem community it's hard to realize you shouldn't put up with that

like from what i've seen every woman who does this is on borrowed time some figure it out before the hammer drops, at least

Zero context for this but absolutely

Sometimes "we'll come back for you" is a threat and too many in the community don't learn the lesson until it's too late. The community paves the way, does the hard work, and then gets told "okay sweetie now let the acceptable ones take over" and the "acceptable" ones still lose. Just.

And that's not limited to traditional right wingers only, also towards the "everything binary trans women say or do is problematic, a thread 🧵" crowd.

27yo me needs this lesson

Also being "bad" is the only way to actually differentiate between the "allies" and the cis people who actually "get it". My cis* (*questionable in some cases) friends and family who stuck around, are the ones who more or less actually listened to me yelling about those who wronged me