Bang on, suffering is also relative, and largely linked to position in society. Your suffering may be a broken air conditioner during a heat wave but someone else’s is not having the house to sweat it out in. Grace as you say is not belittling or ignoring others’. Not playing pain olympics in effect

suffering arises from ones' possible safety space, only incidentally relative to other beings. Those who try to achieve and are frustrated are not are the ones suffering most. It is the desire and attempt being interrupted by circumstance that is suffering; we release or solve desires, or we suffer