We had a career development class toward the end of grad school and someone from the health center stopped by to tell us they're starting a support group for people in relationships on "can love survive grad school" and everybody just laughed bitterly and said "no" www.nature.com/articles/d41... 🧪
PhD students in Sweden accessed mental-health services at increasing rates as their studies went on.
Years ago, when I still harbored dreams of being an academic, I turned down a PhD program. For decades I've felt ashamed for having done so, but I knew at the time I couldn't emotionally hack it.
I met my wife at the beginning of her final year of grad school (2020, even!) so there is hope! <3
I believe that we, who enter the door of the PhD, are aware of the possibility that it will distort your life, that you flirt with schizophrenia, nurture synesthesia, and embrace obsessive-compulsive disorder. Your PhD feeds on you, your soul, and, yes, to a degree, your sanity. You have been warned
A physician I knew said everyone he knew in grad school was on antidepressants, high blood pressure medicine, or both.
In my cohort love survived grade school, but not so much the job market and ECR.
I decided it wasn’t for me but I have not heard good things.
Met my wife after she’d burned out from her phd program. Knowing her as well as I do now, I’m quite certain I’d have run screaming away from her had I met her while she was in it.
I was lucky, love actually helped get me through grad school.