they're angry at you like you get at gadgets that won't work the way you're expecting them to. they're angry at you like you get at someone stripping you of rights you took for natural. they're not actually into you. they want to exploit you, and get apeshit mad whenever you refuse to serve them.

tl;dr there is no contradiction in terfy transphobes enjoying trans porn, raging racists enjoying interracial porn, etc. like, is there a contradiction in misogynists enjoying porn with women in it? they all just feel entitled to exploiting the objects of their desire - and the latter to stfu.