You are entitled to your preferences. But they are indeed costs; they were created or enabled by the same general advances in technology and organization which created the good things. Perhaps you've forgotten the fable of the city mouse & the country mouse?

Criminalization of sex work and pornography existed before and during the 1840s and. Jury trial wasn't a thing for enslaved black people. As for alienation: have you read Little House on the Prairie? Incarceration is high because of the war on drugs, not because of technological progress.