Q for trans men plz n ty: someone v. close to me is going thru some gender stuff and they're having trouble w/ something i can't offer guidance on how do u handle discovering ur a man when men have abused & r*ped u ur entire life? they hate men and now are having real trouble w/ these feelings
oof. this is a lot. this will sound reductive, because it’s a phrase that some unhelpful men will say, but I promise it’s in good faith: not all men. I have been abused by both men and women, repeatedly. the thing that made them do that, imo, is not to do with their gender.
I haven't read the whole thing (it's not that long I just have no attention span for essays) but maybe thenewinquiry.com/on-hating-me... could be helpful? If there's anything more specific or personal I can offer feel free to DM (you or the person in question), I'm happy to talk
big part of unlearning black-and-white thinking is learning to speak in “and also” statements; this technique is popular among both prison abolitionists and dialectical behavior therapists. I have …