Using childlessness as either a political football or as a joke is kinda shitty, no matter which way you vote.

Just seems like such a clear indicator of a church that obsesses over precisely the wrong things.

I’m not gonna lie, I’m really disappointed, and I’ve lost a lot of the hype I originally had for the game. But it’s really interesting to see what a total lack of communication from “on high” can do to a community in waiting.

I’m in a very different place than I thought I would be: A little ELCA church that’s just kind of quietly doing its own thing. Nothing all that exciting. Just an hour each week, with a little bit of charitable giving on the side. I’m not trying to get too involved.

Yes. That’s the side I didn’t mention. That uplifting energy quickly wanes after I get home, and I find myself returning to a feeling of “Eh. Why bother?”

Honestly, I think a combination of going to therapy regularly and spending time praying the Daily Office makes spiritual direction kind of superfluous, another unnecessary hurdle. But then again, I have no authority in the church whatsoever, so I’m not privy to the rationales of the institution.

Yeah, that’s been my experience, too. In our diocese it’s actually required for discernment, if I remember correctly. It’s fine, I guess, but it’s never really been my cup of tea. I’ve found it to be less helpful than therapy, because at least therapists will occasionally offer practical advice.

Wounded folks often make some of the best healers.

Same. I’ve had spiritual directors who were incredibly kind, sensitive, and thoughtful people. But never gave me much “direction” at all.

Man, that is some bullshit. I’m so sorry.