First off, my condolences. And secondly, I think it's great you are doing it yourself. I am the executor for five women, three of whom are in their 90s, one in her 80s, and one my age. I will be corresponding with all their loved ones. Old school letters are the way to go. The heart knows.

I've been cleaning out my boyfriend's mother's estate and she has all the letters from when her brother's death. They are very touching! It matters so much!