I think I need to not look at books anymore that are hyped as "real enemies to lovers". I too like my enemies to be actual enemies. What I don't do well with is when the source of it is systemic oppression. Case in point, I don't think witch/witch hunter books will ever really work for me.

Putting aside the regular bioessentialism that often permeates especially fantasy/romantasy books in that category, I almost never can get behind the actual romance part. Bc I always struggle with not only the power imbalance presented, and the related questions about free will and free choices.