part of the reason that people keep getting outed as sex pests on bluesky is the culture basically revolves around being extremely sexual at all times with no real cultural or technological system for opting out or stating boundaries

honestly as a low-sex-drive gray-ace, the horniness is what keeps me from interacting here on a more regular basis. But that’s, like, a me problem.

It's also kinda weird when you're older. I'm fine casually interacting with people young enough to be my kid, but there's some conversations a 49 year old bloke shouldn't be invited to.

yeah, as a gray ace, sometimes browsing the skyline is deeply uncomfortable for me. i *really* wish we had the option to turn off individual people's retweets.

I feel like I want to call for "open yet delineated spaces" but I don't know how to do that without it either getting taken the wrong way or, more importantly, it actually getting implemented in a harmful way

that means it isn't actually a safe space for expressing sexuality. it feels very height of sex positivity discourse in 2006 as moderated by dan savage