What is the conceptual difference between 'property' and 'what one holds and uses'? Or are they the same and we should use neither? How else can we talk about stuff?

That's the crux, all right. How? I'm talking about removing the idea of property altogether, without replacing it with anything. Trying to get across the idea of nothing where people think something is, is more than a challenge. Hard for me, by myself. I'm conditioned otherwise no less than anyone