I’m sure it feels that way, but the blame lays with him, not with you. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with the evil he perpetrated.

You're right. I should have been smarter but he should have been more honest about who he was. Like for instance when SB8 passed and I was horrified and he was like, "Well I've never supported abortion anyway" as if he had not told me the opposite the whole time we were dating.