i think i'm also wrestling with the cognitive dissonance of posting my transfem porn in what i think are transfem porn subreddits and seeing it get removed. like, i want the audience of the big subreddits, but i don't want to compare myself or my art to these bogus ideas of transfemininity

yeah I feel you, it really sucks that trans porn is wildly loved and accepted only provided it's presented in a very specific fetishized way! A way that really only covers a small slice of the community. That's what we get for being a minority and having to cater to cis people I guess...