I always felt like other guys in an open marriage should be the perfect hookups for me, but they keep proving me wrong and making it weird lol. I've been talking to two guys who seem to be trying to use me to make up for whatever they feel they're not getting from their husbands

it can be delicate for sure... there's still a whole lot of compatibility to consider. i tend to chat online a bunch before we meet, sometimes a whole week lol.