I'm not a part of the babyfur/ABDL community myself, but the friends I know who are in that community are honestly not hurting a damn thing, yet they get caught up in moral panics basically constantly. I know it bothers folks, but "bothers me" can't be the threshold for "is immoral and wrong".

Is there another wave of drama posters "calling out" ABDL people for enjoying life and just being themselves? Can we not? we have enough real issues to work on right now. (Besides never had a issue with any ABDL folks, hung out with a few at my first AC and didn't know until later...nice peeps. )

Literally a "your kink isn't my kink and that's OK" situation, as always. It's applies to more than kink ("your ship is not my ship and that's OK" is the fandom version). Too many folks can't see the difference between "consenting adults doing this weird-to-you thing" and "94% chance it's illegal"

Lots of subcultures and fetishes bother me personally, and I wouldn't participate in them, but you have to be able to separate the important concepts of consent and abuse from "personally makes me uncomfy". If it's not violating consent or abusive, I'm not throwing them under the bus to look "good".

plus like, y'know, incontinence is a disability. God forbid someone create a setting where their disability that drastically reduces their ability to safely engage in society, is considered normal in that society. Because these discourse fucks have made it so everyone assumes perversion.