YES. Civility/niceness doesn’t work against cops who want to kill me and employers who want to grind my body to dust for profit and misogynists who want me to undergo forced birth. Goodness does, but when you conflate goodness with the imposed expectation of niceness you’re just being *obedient*.

And that foolishness ain’t for me. I won’t shake hands with people who have gone on record as saying they’d benefit from my exploitation and death.