feels like there are a lot better people she could have spoken to- like maybe the parents of some queer children in the district...

That's genuinely what's so enraging. There ARE people who need to be spoken to in this, Nex's parents, Nex's community members, others fuckin LoTT have hurt, those voices ARE being ignored in all this and she fucking chose to ask one of the killers how she feels about minorities.