Because I feel like this app is a mostly gay/queer/sex positive place, I feel okay asking here—if I were to order my first harness, what sites would y’all suggest and which are more forgiving when it comes to sizes because I honestly have no idea what size I’d need… #gay#basicbitch#gaykink

I'm still new to harnesses also, but I purchased one from Coyote that's a stretchy, soft fabric. Imagine an underwear band but in a harness. I love how it fits! Now, if you want a more proper one (leather/fake leather/etc), let me know what you find out.