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it's an assault . not a relationship

It's an Assault, Not a Relationship You may notice that I use the word assault. Yes, that is right, dear reader. You were never in a relationship. You were never a significant other nor an intimate partner, because you were never significant, intimate nor a partner. You are a victim of a fraud and you have endured an assault. That is to say, wake up child....wipe the sleep from your eyes... it is time to see it all with 20/20 vision. The chemical haze of the trauma bond and the fog of the elevated stress hormones will interfere with your clarity of vision.
Just to make you doubt yourself and confuse you even more, the abuser will be nice to you sometimes. This is no different than the batterer who buys his wife flowers the next day to say he's sorry. What is happening here biochemically is that this intermittent reinforcement is inducing a surge of oxytocin which reinforces the trauma bond, soothes your pain, and evokes blind trust. You will doubt yourself, think perhaps he's changed or changing, or that you are overreacting. In other words, you are biochemically getting played. Don't let yourself be deceived.
In addition to the trauma bond, depending on what phase of the assault you are in, you may feel paralyzed, immobilized, incompetent or insecure. If that describes you, that, dear reader, is a sure sign of psychological abuse. You will need help to work through these obstacles. If you can't afford a recovery coach or therapist, call a Domestic Abuse hotline for resources. You may also find help in 12 Step Programs like SLAA, CODA and Al Anon.
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