It's similar to why white ppl need to defer to PoC when it comes to experiences of racism/anti-blackness/colonialism - I cannot have that qualia, and the horrors of that I can only deduce from my white perspective. It is an absolute knowledge to know I can't. Hence the importantance of listening.

So - transgender people who don't need to transition, please simply take our word for it that we must. What is mutable for you isn't for us. Same with my fellow orientation-critical bisexuals. Please listen, and stop misquoting Butler or Deleuze - neither of who would disagree with the above.