As Shakti says, it's not the responsibility of the victims, but if you want to know what the experts say, I'd start with Judith Herman's Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice

both sincere *and* have the potential to use a very intense charm abusively. in particular she noted a kind of manipulative empathy, a 'both of us are in this together' used on people when he was actually in the driving seat.

And, she said, he was extremely nice, unlike many famous authors very un-braggy - she had no idea who he was, other than a fellow author - and had clearly noticed she was feeling awkward and gone out of his way to talk to her. But listening to the podcast, she had felt how those qualities could be

This is so crazy and I’m mad. Heart going out to the women who went through this.

It's good that they've covered it in a relative amount of detail, even if they say initially 4 women, then later 5. However it's disingenuous for the BBC not to mention that BBC Studios is also involved in the production of Good Omens 3. I wondered if that's why they delayed saying anything

For non-Brits: being reported on BBC Radio 4 is a big deal. That means important people are listening. People are watching. He is, in short, in trouble.

“… his representative this morning, who said all press enquires were now being called by a company called Edendale Stategies. I’ve looked them up: they describe themselves as crisis management experts. They’ve got an American address and phone number. It’s not being answered at the moment.”

The 9th Sept one on Nanowrimo etc. It's nearer the end

And he's 37 years old here, making comments like that... This is from a Eurotrash episode that aired in February 1998.

This is what has to change. It's not just Neil Gaiman it's the whole rape culture acceptance that it's okay, as long as things are within legal boundaries, to misuse power and influence and manipulate. The other thing that needs to change is putting people on pedestals and accepting that influence.