Or even just to make an effort to create a space for them to feel safe to open up to me about them and their life and the people that are important to them (this very much includes friends). I have the habit of opening myself up and introducing them into my daily life and my friends etc

This is done over the course of a few months. So when they only ever messaging me once every week & a half where most times it’s barely a conversation about a meme I sent, never being introduced to your friends, if I suspect I only know them on a surface level, find out they’ve hid stuff from me,