it’s fucking hard - god, I know how hard If you have a LGTBQ support org, see if they have Zoom group sessions. Attend a local meetup, even if you don’t know anyone. Ride a bike, Uber, bus, whatever. Just get to any in-person events and fight that fear to be shy. There’s really no other way.

and I know, it’s hard, and expensive and hard! but I promise it is worth it because you are worth it

there are support groups, i've considered going tho often those make shit intensely worse right afterwards, which is a big part of why i stopped like suicidal worse were i to try such a thing i'd genuinely prolly need supports ready afterward