"Have you considered never speaking to them again?" is excellent advice too infrequently given, IMO. And I don't mean a temporary, punitive "silent treatment." I mean accepting that the world is full of people you're simply better off not putting energy and time into, and cutting your losses.
Took me a minute to learn that when I was young. Esp with men when they treat me like a person. No amount of explaining is going to change that.
My psychiatrist told me long ago that removing oneself from toxic situations, and toxic people from one's life was vital for well being. It took me a long time to fully implement because there were toxic people, and situations in my life that I would not allow myself to see as toxic.
You don't have to make a big fucking deal out of it, either. Just, boop, out of your life. It's not incumbent upon you to curate the life experience of every dipshit you happen to know.
I have “don’t howl at the wolves” tattooed on my arm after my last visit to the south (old friend said she divorced her 4th husband because she found out he was a Dem…”can’t have no DEMOCRAT living in my house”. I told her “honey I bleed blue…discussion over”)No amount of debate can cure ignorance
Amen. Amen. Amen.
And this can apply to blood relatives as well.
It's saved me many a stress and awful mental health possibilities
I've done It several times. Some people just drain all your energy.
Agreed there are quite a few people I don't speak to anymore...