Robert Putnam may know why we're lonely, but tellingly it's Putnam's wife who--like millions of other women--does the work of keeping Putnam from falling into loneliness himself. And we wonder why men are pushing marriage and trying to limit divorce. www.nytimes.com/2024/07/13/m...
The author of “Bowling Alone” warned us about social isolation and its effect on democracy a quarter century ago. Things have only gotten worse.
I hate Bowling Alone with a passion. I write about the men's clubs of the past - and, yeah, wasn't it great to have vast and regular homo-social activities BECAUSE YOUR WIVES WERE STUCK HOME ALONE WITH THE KIDS?!?!?!
Getting women to do necessary labor for free is basically the end goal of all patriarchy.
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70% of cis het men on dating sites say they’re looking for their ‘best friend.’
Here's the money quote: Int: Can you describe your own social life? What clubs are you in? Putnam: That’s a really embarrassing question. [Laughs] I write about and talk about the importance of connections, but my wife actually does it. She is actually the one who joins everything.
He does recognize the risks for men, especially young, white men. While he also acknowledges he hasn’t personally been good at creating his own bridging social capital. I do worry how this puts people (especially men) at risk of narrow social engagement that leads to hate and disinfo adoption.