they feel entitled to your subservience. they think of themselves as superior to you, the supposedly degenerate ones. to them, queer people's place is in their porn - and nowhere else. your refusal to conform to that expectation is what makes them feel like someone was taking something from them.

One of my weirdo neo-Nazi stalkers would openly talk about how women and little boys should sexually worship wealthy men (such as himself) because they had proven their social superiority by becoming wealthy He also is deeply misogynistic and homophobic, openly so This is just how the right thinks

they're angry at you like you get at gadgets that won't work the way you're expecting them to. they're angry at you like you get at someone stripping you of rights you took for natural. they're not actually into you. they want to exploit you, and get apeshit mad whenever you refuse to serve them.