Nothing really makes it easier to actually confront another person. Have you really done that? Because I think sometimes I fantasize about control to not do that.

IME, there are things that make it easier (my usual one is invoking rules of some kind) but they all have limitations and it is extremely hard to do if those backups aren't applicable

Make no mistake: I see you; I objectify you. It's just that, when I daydream, I see what I'd like to see. You might speak, but I supply the end of the sentence.