And how would that feel? I don't think it stifles you. It might negate you.

IMO it does, and doing that without the consent involved in a kink scene is a very good way to provoke the raw unconstrained confrontation you were talking about

Suffice it to say: what I do has a sly entangled relationship with my fantasy. Confronting the object of my fantasy head on means I have to actually see it. Is anyone good at that? Well, I'm not.