It's the meaning, the concept, that's the problem, no matter what word that meaning is hung on. Shared respect is natural, though obviously not universal. Using the concept of property is making it harder not just to communicate what's wanted, but also even to contemplate it oneself.

What is the conceptual difference between 'property' and 'what one holds and uses'? Or are they the same and we should use neither? How else can we talk about stuff?

The offered qualifiers demonstrate this.