In short: If we don't take a collective approach to mitigate our own monstering and libeling, it will proceed unabated and compound the issues we face due to the current biofascist moment. You don't have to like it, but "live and let live" is hard to do when society doesn't want us to live.
I know people are "tired of the discourse", but consider that trans women rarely have robust support networks and are very dependent on online circles and crowdfunding. Existing in hostile algorithmic environments and social climates currently thriving on demonizing us makes life much harder.
One of patriarchy's most sacred precepts is that your body doesn't belong to you, but to your father, your church, your husband, the State. If you change your body, you violate that precept and render yourself forever outcast—ex castra, Latin for "outside the (military) camp."
Here's the dirty little secret: cis people don't actually fear social transition. After all, people have been "eccentric" for ages. The TERFy wizard lady said it outright: change your name, use different pronouns, dress how you like, they don't care. But they FREAK OUT when you change your body.
Fuck "Is XYZ valid?" Ask "Do you support transition?" Because that's what the moment actually calls for.
I am, frankly, thoroughly over validity. Trans people who do not transition bodily are exceedingly valid to a society that abhors those who change their sex! Their validity was never in question! Transsexuals, however, are constantly invalidated and implicated in the very systems that oppress us!
It is time to stop being polite: Trans people who do not bodily transition are viewed as more respectable and as embodying trans identity 'correctly'. That this aligns with patriarchal society's disgust at transition and insistence that sex is immutable is not a coincidence.
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