cursorily checking someones bio before engaging *IS* part of modern netiquette, update your guide admit fault or draw 25

If using the singular “they” to refer to someone in the abstract, it is gender-neutral. And learning someone’s pronouns is for if I’m going to refer to them personally, and not as just someone who’s out there, their utterly gender superfluous to the matter at hand. Sorry but no, you don’t own me.