that “you’d succeed if you just cared and tried harder” line has done a whole lot of damage to ADHD people, I tell you what

Oh the depths of hellish depression my brain goes if anyone do much as suggests I’m not trying hard enough on something when in reality I’m trying with every fibre of my being 🫠

and like. it’s one (already quite horrible) thing when regular ppl do this. but whyyy do i have so many memories of counselors and therapists scolding me for saying „i can’t” instead of „i didn’t” and also questioning whether i really want to do the things i really want to do.

“Panic attack? Just say you won’t let one happen”.

bUt yOu hAvE So mUcH PoTeNtIaL!

To be fair, it never occurred to me that I should apply myself until EVERYONE EVER TOLD ME.

"you just need to learn time management!"

Oh geez, the times I get scolded because I'm disappointing people by not being on time but the panic spiral is literally because I'm not on time and I know that and it's what's making it even later and how do I even break out of that?

Accurate. Also, ow...

It’s precisely because I care so much that the task complete paralysed me.

the most passive-aggressive (IMHO) thing I ever said (in this case jokingly to a friend) that works (in the worst way) even on Type A non-ADHD people was, "Just make an effort." Variations on that are Bad In Every Way Dammit. No good can come of this.