Not long ago a trans lesbian friend commented to me that she was surprised at how often I talked about gay men as my natural peers because she would have expected that to be cis straight women This surprised ME. I began to realize that this was going to take a lot to unpack

The first person my gf came out to as trans was her gay best friend, so this tracks to me! Got invited to a film about queer people in America and asked if she could dress up for it, and they said yes. Gave her the bravery to dress up as herself. 🙂

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Honestly this makes a lot of sense to me wrt position to the state/labor, historical conflation, subculture sharing

i honestly would have expected the same thing. i'm finding the idea of 'gay men as your natural peers' hard to even wrap my head around. like, it shocked me.

🌱is that a common perception? To think that transhets are more similar to cishet women than to gay men?

Not a criticism of the friend, by the way. But it was one of the first times I’d heard that addressed from an outside perspective like that

so i'm not sure i've given this a lot of consideration (being bi now, while almost exclusively gay before)-- i remember always feeling more comfortable in gay men's spaces even if i didn't quite understand them and missed a lot of cultural expectations at the time?