I’m happily into some fairly heavy kink, I have been for years, with a fair number of partners. That’s not an uncommon experience for me, that’s a unique one

It’s tempting, even (especially?) as a victim, to do the Gus Grissom, ‘we’re engaged in a dangerous business’ thing, but that isn’t true and it’s a poisonous idea because when kink is involved there should be more caution, not less