I love that kink is a part of my life, it’s important to me, and I don’t think it is fair for me or anyone to come away with the idea that because of it they deserve to be assaulted, or that that assault is in some way mitigated

november, you put this so well. i’m sorry that you went through this at all, and it sucks that anyone is giving you or anyone else she harmed any bullshit

Very well said love. Sorry that you've had to think about it again at all.

You don't, and such things as what happened only even CAN happen in the first place as resultant from what could in the most charitable terms be called a fundamentally reckless and uncaring approach on the part of someone you are required to trust. It is ridiculous to imply it's an inherent risk.You don't, and such things as what happened only even CAN happen in the first place as resultant from what could in the most charitable terms be called a fundamentally reckless and uncaring approach on the part of someone you are required to trust. It is ridiculous to imply it's an inherent risk.

I'm so sorry you went through this, and I'm so angry that people are trying to minimise or mitigate it.

I do not have the right words to express my support for you and my sorrow at what you have endured. I am sorry that you have been made a survivor of abuse. I hope that you are able to heal, physically and mentally, whatever that might mean for you. You are important and you are loved.

christ, November. 💔 thank you for speaking out, and doing so with the usual clarity and thoughtfulness. you have gone through terrifying stuff and don’t owe anybody anything, and especially with that in mind I’m thankful for the much needed nuance and insight you always bring to the table on kink