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MRmorpheusravenna.bsky.social

+ this has profoundly shaped my understanding of art as a practice of survival. Authoritarians (& my abuser) push a narrative that art is frivolous, a luxury, something only for the privileged. But it’s not. It is a core part of humanity and it keeps us alive when we are in the darkest places. #art

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Momirinatsu.bsky.social

i freaking wish tj would rot behind bars by the end the same way he did to ian 🙏 this sht is so vile and traumatizing, the fact that he willingly made him go through that bc he's an obsessive controlling abuser is crazy. he should suffer there for 20 years

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Momirinatsu.bsky.social

abuser told

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Mmarbenais.bsky.social

Just because someone is married to an abuser who has cheated on them doesn’t mean they’re A Victim And We Always Side With Victims So They Must Be Trapped (I have some specific sports-people parallels in mind). People are complex and being wronged doesn’t make someone right.

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NFnews-feed.bsky.social

@straits_times: Recalcitrant drug abuser who gave meth to teen son to consume gets over 6 years’ jail

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Ntichatnwa.bsky.social

it's an assault . not a relationship

It's an Assault, Not a Relationship You may notice that I use the word assault. Yes, that is right, dear reader. You were never in a relationship. You were never a significant other nor an intimate partner, because you were never significant, intimate nor a partner. You are a victim of a fraud and you have endured an assault. That is to say, wake up child....wipe the sleep from your eyes... it is time to see it all with 20/20 vision. The chemical haze of the trauma bond and the fog of the elevated stress hormones will interfere with your clarity of vision.
Just to make you doubt yourself and confuse you even more, the abuser will be nice to you sometimes. This is no different than the batterer who buys his wife flowers the next day to say he's sorry. What is happening here biochemically is that this intermittent reinforcement is inducing a surge of oxytocin which reinforces the trauma bond, soothes your pain, and evokes blind trust. You will doubt yourself, think perhaps he's changed or changing, or that you are overreacting. In other words, you are biochemically getting played. Don't let yourself be deceived.
In addition to the trauma bond, depending on what phase of the assault you are in, you may feel paralyzed, immobilized, incompetent or insecure. If that describes you, that, dear reader, is a sure sign of psychological abuse. You will need help to work through these obstacles. If you can't afford a recovery coach or therapist, call a Domestic Abuse hotline for resources. You may also find help in 12 Step Programs like SLAA, CODA and Al Anon.
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MJwilsonmj.bsky.social

Megalopolis is a movie that dares to ask "what if we put a serial abuser in a villain role and have him in drag for 1/3 of the movie". Francis Ford Coppola's habit of casting recently outed abusive men in his films is gross.

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Ntichatnwa.bsky.social

trauma bond

The Trauma Bond: A Tactic of Coercive Control The trauma bond is an essential element in why people stay in abusive and toxic situations. It is a powerful poly-substance addiction in which the victim's oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin are regulated by the abuser. Oxytocin produces a sense of well-being, blind trust, pain reduction, and attachment.
The trauma bond is unidirectional with the victim becoming attached to the abuser. It doesn't work the other way around. This bond is forged in the earliest phases of the assault through the weaponization of sex and romance. If you were not codependent before the time shared with your abuser, you will become one if you stay long. If you are reading this and you are a victim or survivor, know that you have no responsibility for having been trauma bonded; it is as if you were shot up with heroin against your will. But now that you know, please know that you are response-able to break it. There is help and there is hope.
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Gmissi8ella.bsky.social

i cry really hard every time i remember kali uchis is married to an abuser

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Rrexlibris.bsky.social

Chicago's an easy leader because their team management, coaching, captaincy and ownership covered up an internal sexual assault against a player and shuffled the abuser off to a boys' school where he re-offended AND refuse to change their racist team name/logo.

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